I don t want to be picky but added to those Zoe says it will help is me a vicar It will be incredibly useful to me in my pastoral care, it has given me insights that I just could not have had, and so aided my pastoral care of bereaved parents It is a wonderful book full of incredibly painful honesty which has resulted in the capacity to offer such support for 90 days Zoe s book is a gift of love, a love that knows both joy and broken sorrow, a book I will share with all families I meet experiencing the same loss and pain and grief. This is a beautiful book and I only wish I had heard about it earlier on in the process of losing my daughter.It gave many examples, the authors real life experience and suggestions on what may or may not helped.I loved the 90 day part where every day you could come back for a quote, a little message and a small task.It is also your choice whether to do this daily most recommended or whether you want to do it quickly or just dip in and out of the book as when.It was an invaluable resource to me and I truly wish all hospitals knew about it so they could send those lost, bereaved parents home with something to look for. 21 Days ago, I lost my baby boy James, at 23 weeks 5 days from CDH I have never known such pain and I ve had a lifetime of physical pain via my own health conditions.This book has been a real lifeline during this awful time It s like reading my own diary but with my questions and worries answered.Luckily, I have had incredible support from our hospital, family, friends and husband but reading this book has been like a best friend, who knows exactly what to say, how honest to be and has walked in my shoes it s been invaluable.The book covers 90 days post baby loss, at the moment I can t imagine life beyond the grief or day when I don t sob in the shower or feel despair at 9 57pm every night James Birth time but knowing this book will be guiding me through to my boys due date is a real comfort.Thoughtfully written with heartwrenching honesty, Saying Goodbye is a must have for all those in the same terrible situation as my husband and I Zoe Clarke Coates is a bright light of hope and positivity in the baby loss community. I actually didn t buy this book for myself to read but to give away to another grieving family Having read small parts of this book myself and having discussed it with friends, knowing the comfort Zoe s words gave us, we knew we would love to share her inspiring words with others Zoe speaks about baby loss in the most hauntingly beautiful way, you truly feel her words in your core When I was reading the first few chapters I felt that Zoe had channeld my thoughts The most eloquent beautiful way Zoe shares her experiences describes perfectly what I have always wished to say but can never quite get across but thanks to Zoe book there are words now I m really not good with words and I wish I could make a beautiful long paragraph like some of the other reviews of this book have been But I urge you wether your loss was recent or many years ago l, read this book It s an essential baby loss tool Thank you again Zoe for writing it x This is a wonderful book for those who have lost a baby or for family and friends supporting them You can read it day by day, but I chose to read it in chunks and use what tips i could whenever I felt them o be useful.Having just lost my baby i have to say I found the first section about the authors losses difficult and upsetting to read But this can be easily skipped until you re feeling stronger and th second half is just lovely After losing our daughter on 21st July 2017 and having two other miscarriages one before and one after our daughter being stillborn I was lost in a dark place filled with sadness, grief, dispair, brokenness and guilt I felt so so alone This book was recommended to me and for that I am so thankful, for the first time I realised that my feelings weren t unique and it was okay to be feeling the way I have I often go back to the book in times of difficulty Zoe is an incredible woman and fills me with hope for our future despite the sadness and loss up to now I am really looking forward to her new books being published. Excellent book and very helpful to anyone who s lost a baby or wants to support someone who s had a miscarriage.Some lovely quotes to share with people. Losing a baby, whether through miscarriage, stillbirth or neonatal death, leaves so many parents lost in grief and full of unanswered questions Zo Clark Coates, and her husband Andy, have personally faced the loss of five babies Out of their experiences came the charity The Mariposa Trust often known by its leading division Saying Goodbye , offering support to thousands of grieving parents and relatives around the world each week Now, Zo writes a moving account of their experiences and how they found a way through to provide help and support for others Alongside this aredays of daily support for those who are grieving, offering comfort and hope during the difficult days, weeks and months Beautifully written book Zoe s story is honest and raw Mothers who have experienced a loss like this can relate People who haven t experienced loss get a glimpse of the deviation The 90 day quotes, while i ve not read all of them, are well written and encouraging It pains me to own this book, but I am forever grateful for Zoe for what she has done It has helped me through the loss of my own child.