Death is the last taboo in our society, and grief is still profoundly misunderstood So many of us feel awkward and uncertain around death, and shy away from talking honestly with family and friends Grief Works is a compassionate guide that will inform and engage anyone who is grieving, from the expected death of a parent to the sudden unexpected death of a small child, and provide clear advice for those seeking to comfort the bereaved.With deeply moving case studies of real people s stories of loss, and brilliantly accessible and practical advice, Grief Works will be passed down through generations as the definitive guide for anyone who has lost a loved one, and revolutionise the way we talk about life, loss and death. This very useful and informative book is in sections that deal with when a partner dies, when a parent dies, when a sibling dies, when a child dies, facing your own death, and the historical context of death in the UK Sources are given.Samuel believes we need to understand the process of grief and acknowledge its necessity We need to allow ourselves to feel the pain It cannot be escaped She gives details of a young mother who lost her daughter, and resorted to drink and fighting with her family and friends who tried to help her.Death is the last great taboo We hate to discuss it It is an alien thing This silence can lead to an ignorance that prevents us from responding to grief We talk of strong people who display little or no grief Euphemisms like passed away, lost, gone to a better place, tumble out In England some 500,000 deaths occur each year Every one of these affects at least five people The pain caused is invisible, it is an unseen wound.Samuel makes a very important point , namely it is not the pain of grief that damages us, but the things we do or avoid to mask it She is a bereavement counsellor and therapist who believes to manage grief we need the love of others As a therapist she has seen how a number of strategies can help us bear the pain Support is the key Studies reveal that some 15 per cent of psychiatric referrals are the result of unresolved grief The aim of this excellent book is to address the fear that surrounds death and replace it with knowledge and confidence Grief, she says, is work, very hard work.The book uses many real case studies They are arranged according to the relationship of the person with the person who has died see above.The focus is on the grief not the therapy Listening to someone is crucial At the end of each section Samuel reflects and gives her broader thoughts on how to approach the kind of loss The historical section is useful as it shows how cultural attitudes have altered in the past 180 or so years.This is a very useful resource that can be visited again and again It is written without jargon and with clarity Her opening definition of grief is important She emphasises that we must find a way of living with a reality that we don t want to be true.I cannot recommend this book highly enough. An excellent work translated in easy to read language without high tech descriptions For a first time publication Julia Samuel is to be congratulated for this very sensitive and emotive work I suffered the loss of my wife 6 months ago and this has helped me immensely come to grips with my grieving process. Bought this book as my husband passed away suddenly a few months ago and I m really struggling to come to terms with what happened I thought it might help OK, I could identify with some of the cases but there were really no coping strategies and I was left feeling worse after reading it Might help some people but not me.